Another aha moment. The only thing that has ever held me back from being all I was meant to be, is me.
In Susan Jeffers’ book Embracing Uncertainty I ran across a ”What If” exercise she suggested her readers do. It was about facing your fears of uncertainty about the future. If I remember right, you were supposed to list your “what if” worries to help you figure out if you could handle the possible outcomes — and by getting those fears out, you could analyze whether or not you could indeed handle them, change them, or do anything about them (thus eliminating their power). And then you were encouraged to simply let them go.
Before last November when I had my own version of a “breakdown” aka “spiritual awakening”, I used to practice what Brene Brown, author of Daring Greatly, calls foreboding joy. Essentially I would imagine the worst case scenario of whatever was in front of me, so that I would not be vulnerable “unprepared to handle it” if my current state of happiness or safety changed on me. I would consider all possible outcomes to make sure I could indeed handle things ”if”, and more often than not I was preparing myself to handle negative outcomes. Talk about setting myself up for failure, not to mention the potential for the direction of my thoughts to attract more negativity into my life.
It seems so clear to me now why I felt like my life was spinning out of control— and why the joyful moments I felt were so fleeting. I was trying to control outcomes to situations that would likely never even occur. I was pushing away my current joy and fearing what might (or might not be) coming next.
So when I ran across the exercise in Embracing Uncertainty I adapted it for my new way of positive thinking about future outcomes. My What If list now represents what I need to be prepared to handle when I am a HUGE SUCCESS. I need to be ready for the JOY I know is coming my way.
How freeing it was to dream of my future in a way that concludes with success and happiness. I am truly in awe of how completely heart expanding positivity can be.
Question of the Week #36 / What is on Your ‘What If ‘ List?
Create the life you want. Imagine it. Attract it. Don’t be scared to dream really big, I wasn’t.
Terri’s List of Positive What If’s:
- What if I have more than enough money and never need to worry about where it comes from again?
- What if I have a million blog readers?
- What if I am able to live life with ease and joy, every single day?
- What if I am paid more money than I know what to do with and have lots to give away?
- What if I earn huge amounts of income just by being the me I was always meant to be?
- What if I use my natural talents to help others find their way to happiness and fulfillment?
- What if I have all the time I need to learn more about the things that matter to me?
- What if I remain gloriously happy every single day?
- What if I’ve discovered the secret to living a joy-filled life and can help others find it?
- What if I write a book that makes the best seller list?
- What if all my dreams come true?
For more about learning to live life in the positive I suggest the following books (some have been nothing less than life changers for me):
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, Susan Jeffers
End The Struggle and Dance With Life, Susan Jeffers
Embracing Uncertainty, Susan Jeffers
Daring Greatly, Brene Brown
The Gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown
The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz
Happy for No Reason, Marci Shimoff